I Was Once One of Them…

  • Holly Wagner
  • Aug 22, 2011
  • Category: General
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Most of us look at fashion magazines and feel depressed shortly afterward. Why? Because we feel as if we can never measure up.  When we look in the mirror our imperfections shout loudly.

“Big pimple in middle of forehead!”

“Serious baggage under eyes!”

“Very large nose!”

“Lots of crow’s feet!”

“Disappearing lips!”

Those women in the magazines look perfect. I would like to let you in on a little secret…shhhh…the women in those photos aren't perfect either. I know.

 

Because I was once one of them.

 

I showed up on modeling assignments looking anything but perfect. It took: hours of hair and makeup geniuses…hemorrhoid cream on puffy eyes…tape to hold everything together…photoshop to get rid of the pimple… all to create an illusion. Honestly, there were times when the image was so fictitious it might as well have been a cartoon!

 

I recently interviewed Jennifer Strickland who at one time had been a model for the designer Armani. She told stories of the price she, and other young women, paid to look the way designers wanted them to look. There was not one young model she encountered who was not using drugs or dealing with a serious eating disorder.

She told of one model known for her smile.

In fact her smile graced many billboards advertising toothpaste.

She looked ‘perfect’ and happy.

In reality she threw up nine or ten times a day and was desperately unhappy.

She looked in the mirror and saw flaws.

She saw what she wasn’t.

 

I have read articles and heard various news stories of women around the earth who are desperately trying to change themselves into some image of beauty. There are young girls in Japan who are putting steel rods in their legs because they think that taller is beautiful.

Who said?

There are women in India who are paying to have their skin lightened because they think lighter is beautiful.

Who said?

There are some Asian women having surgery to have their eyes made rounder.

Who said that round eyes were more beautiful???

 

Why is it that we always see someone else as more beautiful?

The only way to defeat this way of thinking is to look in the mirror and shout…

Go ahead.

Shout it out loud.

 

I praise you (God) because of the wonderful way you created me. Everything you do is marvelous! Of this I have no doubt. (PS 139)

In fact…why don’t you just whistle at yourself right after you shout!! We were created in the image of our creator and he calls us beautiful…marvelous…every curve, freckle and strand of hair…beautiful.

I get this picture of God right after he created us. He looks at us and does the Italian thing with his fingers against his lips…bellisima…perfecto!!

God has declared that we are marvelous…beautiful.

Yet, we don't really believe it, so we look and wait for someone else to tell us. Some of us dress in such a way to show every curve…cleavage (if you are lucky enough to have some J)…hoping that someone will say we are beautiful. Your creator has already said it…but I can too…ok…you are beautiful. No matter the shape of your eyes, the size of your nose, the color of your skin, the texture of your hair, or the smoothness of your skin…YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL!!

Most of us have probably seen the movie Shrek. At the end of the movie, after ‘true loves’ kiss, Fiona is disappointed to find out that she did not turn back into the woman, but instead remained an ogre. She looked at Shrek and said “ I was supposed to be beautiful.” He replied, “But you are beautiful.” 

You and I have been given true loves kiss.                                            

And He says we are beautiful.

Comments(14)

Nissa on Aug 23, 2011 11:41am

Awesome, Holly! This is a message God has placed in my heart to share with other women. Thank you for saying it so beautifully!

Melony on Aug 23, 2011 12:29pm

Thanks for the awesome reminder, Holly!

Sally on Aug 23, 2011 1:25pm

if only i understood this... one day... didnt know you were a model! hardly surprising, you're gorgeous lady :)

Heart n Soul on Aug 23, 2011 3:24pm

Beautiful thoughts Holly. Love how you have articulated this post. This is something very much at the forefront of my mind as I raise a teenage daughter (Sixteen - eeek!!!!) ... the world is so very harsh! Guiding them through these years takes a lot of courage, fortitude and endless love. I am currently journaling our story, one day I hope to share it ... when we have finally made it through .... to the other side.

Cindy on Aug 23, 2011 6:54pm

Thank you for writing this blog! You spoke the truth!!!

Nan on Aug 23, 2011 7:20pm

Thank you, Holly!

Tara on Aug 23, 2011 9:19pm

Thank u for sharing , exactly what I need to hear, I'm sharing your blog to the women in my world xxx

Anna on Aug 26, 2011 4:18am

Dear Holly,
Thank you so much for this. I share this kind of message with women a lot and in fact am just preparing a talk for a women's conference. It was so good to read this. It spurred me on to be reminded that this subject does matter and it really blessed me personally too - it's something we need to hear and go on hearing because there are so many other loud voices trying to drown out the truth. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Nataly on Aug 27, 2011 1:55pm

Dear holly!
thanks for your devotional book God girls has served me well in my spiritual growth. I command you
Greetings from Colombia and I want to tell you that you have
been a blessing for my life. Every day I pray God
for you.

Sorry for my English: google translator because I am and
Colombia and what is of English is not very

Blessings to you and your family

Natalia on Sep 8, 2011 6:25pm

Holly! thank you very much! God says I'm beautiful! :) regards from Bogotá, Colombia :) God bless you!

Momentsofwords on Sep 9, 2011 1:35pm

Thank you for writing this post,it is so good!So many great words and the most importants:I'm beautiful! :)
God bless you!

Cat on Sep 24, 2011 5:59am

Thank you, i needed to read this today!

Lluvia on Dec 14, 2011 9:38pm

Thanks for reminding me that I am fearfully and wonderfully made!

ANAYELI on Dec 27, 2011 9:31pm

Holly, ¡es increible!encontrar a una escritora como tu tan humanista, sociables, llena de Dios! de verdad sigue adelante, ¿sabes algo? leer tus libros me hace sentir una princesa, una hermosa creaccion de nuestro padre celestial, por que deverdad me sentia muy mal hace poco, y si como dices tu cuando nos vemos al espejo gritan unas enormes voces...pero que gorda, que fea...etc...pero soy hermosa me amo sii sii ya aprendi a amarme gracias a Dios y a tus buenos concejos...gracias Hoy y siempre Dios te Bendiga

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